I need help. But I'm just not getting anywhere. I'm dealing with covert incest, abuse and put downs from my elderly mother. But there is just nothing out there. My brother took his life after many years of sexual abuse and incest from his father. Now I'm feeling there is nowhere to go. I'm Nearly 50 and came home to care for my mother but now it's turned bad. If she hears me on the phone to my new partner she starts slamming the doors throwing things around. She is getting worse the more private I'm becoming from her. I'm now thinking death is quieter. What do I do? I hate her.